porn harms

Top 5 Reasons to NOT View Porn

Photo by Freddie Marriage on Unsplash

Photo by Freddie Marriage on Unsplash

1.      You will feel better about yourself.  I have counseled religious people and non-religious people.   Men and women as well as youth.  A common theme is that a majority feel worse after viewing porn.   Most watch it in secret, hide it, and spend more time viewing than they had planned.  Improve your self-esteem by saying no to viewing porn.

2.     If married, you will have a more satisfying & intimate relationship with your spouse.  Marriage experts John and Julie Gottman have spent their careers studying what makes a healthy couple relationship.  April 5, 2016 they declared that “use of pornography by one partner leads the couple to have far less sex and ultimately reduces relationship satisfaction.“ https://www.gottman.com/blog/an-open-letter-on-porn/

3.     You will develop better coping skills for the hard parts of life.  Many who seek to view porn cite reasons of being bored or lonely, needing to relax, or searching for something exciting.    Sadly, after their porn viewing experience, these same folks do NOT report that the porn viewing session relieved their discomfort or increased their excitement.  Most admit it was an escape behavior that just provided a temporary relief.  These same individuals who reach out to others, find positive activities or hobbies, or better ways to relax or soothe difficult emotions decide porn was a bad habit.  

4.     You will have more time to connect with important people in your life.   I have not had one person I know that proposed to their family let’s sit down and watch some porn together. On the other hand, I have had numerous clients express regret that they wasted time that could have been spent with family or friends.  Some have even missed part of a birthday or special occasion as they lost track of time while viewing porn. 

5.     You will develop more healthy and helpful views on sexuality.  Porn is mis-information about sexuality. Like other public health issues, not all exposed have the same response. When reviewing over 150 peer-reviewed articles in the porn-harms data base (https://pornharmsresearch.com/ ) it becomes clear that repeated exposure is correlated to problematic and addictive sexual behaviors, divorce or failed relationships, violence toward women, rape, criminal behavior, sex trafficking, and sexualized children,  increased STI rates, and increased sexual dysfunction among young men.

 

Shane Adamson LCSW, EFT, CSAT is a professional counselor in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.   One of his specialties is helping couples overcome infidelity as well as youth and adults who wish to address sexual addictions and unwanted sexual compulsion that often resulted from chronic porn use.  He is married to Wendy Jones Adamson and loves spending time with his 3 children and extended family .