I live in the 78132 zip code and I am well known in my community and a public figure due to
my job occupation.
On August 21st, 2015 my whole world came crashing down. I found out that my husband who I
had been with for 20 years and married for 10 years, had been on the Ashley Madison leak and
slept with over 100 prostitutes and demolishing my family.
He had watched porn since high school. By college, it turned into a frequent thing and the
problem progressed from normal sexual acts to violence and other acts towards women that
extended into our bedroom. I became just one of the girls in the videos. He would wake up in the
middle of the night to look at porn. I would find our bed empty and go looking for him and find
him behind a computer screen. He would leave me in the bed after sex to go look at porn. This
escalated to chat rooms due to pop ups and then escort sites when a computer screen wasn't
enough. In the end he was looking at porn at home (my son walked in on him numerous times
and started acting out sexually), to masturbating to porn at work in the business bathrooms. He
was looking at it and masturbating to it up to 20 times a day.
I was abused in the bedroom and made to do things that I didn't want to do. I was told that my
body wasn't good enough and physical violence in the bedroom started to be a norm.
One month he spent $1750 on porn sites. He spent our savings of $36,000 on hookers and told
me that this spiral all started with porn. Porn is not innocent. It is a gateway drug into a life that
isn't real. It creates an expectation of what a woman should be like that isn't obtainable. For a
man whos moral compass is off, it can lead to prostitutes. My husband would visit them and
come home to his family as if nothing happened. He also brought home two STDs. He himself
said that porn was the starting point for him. Somethings has to be done. I'm left picking up the
pieces of my children's lives.