A Public Health Crisis

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Approximately 40 million Americans visit pornography websites on a regular basis. About 25 percent of internet search queries, or 68 million searches per day, are related to pornography, and 35 percent of all Internet downloads are porn-related. About one-third of pornography viewers are women.

Despite risks of job loss or legal problems, millions of people access pornography at work every year. Almost a third lose their jobs over their compulsive sexual behavior.

The causes of porn addiction can be psychological or physiological. Some people use porn to cope with mental illness such as depression anxiety or trauma. Some people use porn to counter loneliness, boredom or isolation.    

When people use porn to cope with unresolved psychological pain, they are at an increased risk of developing a pattern of compulsive porn use. People who have suffered trauma often dissociate from emotions and memories related to the trauma. Porn use can become a way to prolong or intensify these dissociative states.

Physiologically, what causes addiction to porn is the repeated pursuit of an exaggerated and euphoric state of arousal in combination with the need for avoidance of negative feeling of current pain or past pain.  Or in simpler terms, they become “addicted” to the feeling the chemicals the brain creates during porn use. 

The consequences of porn addiction can be severe. Frequent porn use can make it more difficult for men to experience arousal in response to sexual stimuli other than porn. Using porn significantly increases the risk of infidelity and loss of long-term relationships. Additional effects of porn addiction can include financial problems and job loss. 

Another consequence may be that those who are addicted to pornography often experience symptoms of depression and anxiety after using porn. Imbalances in dopamine and serotonin levels can be the result of over stimulation of these systems, increasing the symptoms of depression and anxiety in those who consistently view porn.  

Recently leading experts across a variety of disciplines agreed pornography use is in fact, addictive and a public health crisis.  It is now evident that what has long been classified as a harmless, personal expression of sexuality is actually a behavior that is destructive not only to the addict but also to his community and family. 

To get more information and resources to help those you care about find the help and healing they need, we invite you to attend the next Lone Star Coalition Against Pornography Conference: 

 “Porn is a human issue—deep in the heart of Texas”

October 19, 2019       9am-2pm 

Collin County Community College. Spring Creek Campus,  Plano, TX. 

Jody VanDrimmelen has a Master’s degree in Social Work and is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker.  She has a private practice working as a Child and Family Therapist in Arlington and Plano.  Shortly after opening her private practice in 2012 she found many of her clients and their families were being destroyed by pornography addiction.  She has helped with the LCAP conferences in Dallas the past 3 years and continues to work to educate the community and work to restore families affected by pornography addiction.  

Top 5 Reasons to NOT View Porn

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1.      You will feel better about yourself.  I have counseled religious people and non-religious people.   Men and women as well as youth.  A common theme is that a majority feel worse after viewing porn.   Most watch it in secret, hide it, and spend more time viewing than they had planned.  Improve your self-esteem by saying no to viewing porn.

2.     If married, you will have a more satisfying & intimate relationship with your spouse.  Marriage experts John and Julie Gottman have spent their careers studying what makes a healthy couple relationship.  April 5, 2016 they declared that “use of pornography by one partner leads the couple to have far less sex and ultimately reduces relationship satisfaction.“ https://www.gottman.com/blog/an-open-letter-on-porn/

3.     You will develop better coping skills for the hard parts of life.  Many who seek to view porn cite reasons of being bored or lonely, needing to relax, or searching for something exciting.    Sadly, after their porn viewing experience, these same folks do NOT report that the porn viewing session relieved their discomfort or increased their excitement.  Most admit it was an escape behavior that just provided a temporary relief.  These same individuals who reach out to others, find positive activities or hobbies, or better ways to relax or soothe difficult emotions decide porn was a bad habit.  

4.     You will have more time to connect with important people in your life.   I have not had one person I know that proposed to their family let’s sit down and watch some porn together. On the other hand, I have had numerous clients express regret that they wasted time that could have been spent with family or friends.  Some have even missed part of a birthday or special occasion as they lost track of time while viewing porn. 

5.     You will develop more healthy and helpful views on sexuality.  Porn is mis-information about sexuality. Like other public health issues, not all exposed have the same response. When reviewing over 150 peer-reviewed articles in the porn-harms data base (https://pornharmsresearch.com/ ) it becomes clear that repeated exposure is correlated to problematic and addictive sexual behaviors, divorce or failed relationships, violence toward women, rape, criminal behavior, sex trafficking, and sexualized children,  increased STI rates, and increased sexual dysfunction among young men.


Shane Adamson LCSW, EFT, CSAT is a professional counselor in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.   One of his specialties is helping couples overcome infidelity as well as youth and adults who wish to address sexual addictions and unwanted sexual compulsion that often resulted from chronic porn use.  He is married to Wendy Jones Adamson and loves spending time with his 3 children and extended family . 

A Time of a Thousand Opportunities

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By Ray Butler, 2019 LCAP Conference Co-chair

We live in an exciting age, a time of a thousand opportunities.  Wireless internet usage is currently at 20 exabytes per month – that is twenty billion gigabytes – and is projected to grow to 80 exabytes per month by 2024.  Along with the unprecedented opportunities come new challenges, challenges that won’t go away if we bury our heads in the sand like the ostrich. I’ve seen the negative effects of pornography on individuals, families, marriages, and careers, and chances are that either you or someone you know is affected.  100% of us will be exposed whether intentionally or inadvertently, and the age of first exposure is getting younger and younger. The good news is that there are excellent resources and tools to assist in protecting ourselves and our families and to open the lines of communication when exposure does happen.  The organization Love People Not Pixels is giving a Porn + Parenting workshop at our conference in Plano on October 19. There is hope and healing for affected spouses and partners, and there is a path to sobriety for those struggling personally. Our conference host Shane Adamson will join Jody VanDrimmelen (both Licensed Clinical Social Workers) and together they will outline paths to healing.
There are actions we can take in our community to help stem the tsunami that is hitting us now and will continue to increase. Fight the New Drug will show us the way to turn the tide in their presentation "A Generation's Fight for Love." To learn more about available resources to heal homes, hearts, and communities, come join us at the LCAP conference on October 19.

For the last 4 years Ray Butler led a church-sponsored recovery support group for men who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. Ray is passionate about educating Texans on the dangers and risks associated with pornography; central to this mission is sharing information about the many tools and resources that are available to help protect each of us and especially our youth.

Is It Him or Is It Me?


By Dr. David W. Patterson

Pornography is a selfish master that will try to blame everyone involved.

The truth is that all of the trauma and drama that is felt by loved ones is the full responsibility of the one who is acting out with pornography.

While serving as a bishop and now as a life coach, I regularly meet with men, women, husbands, and wives who are all dealing with the effects of pornography. The most predominant group is male who are actively engaged in some form of porn. These men, both young and old are viewing pornography on devices, going to interactive demand websites, or visiting live, so-called “Gentleman's Clubs.”

The second group that I meet with is women who are in some way associated with a boy or man who are acting out with pornography. They are mothers and wives and on occasion, girlfriends. Most of these wonderful women are confused or nearly destroyed when their lives are turned upside down by those who are entangled in the self-abuse of pornography.

Like many unwanted behaviors and addictions, there are many more innocent victims injured beyond the one who is engaging in pornography. The first group, mostly men, feels trapped, overwhelmed, angry, and defensive. The second group, mostly women, feels betrayed, ashamed, and may labor under the heavy emotional burdens of worry, hurt, and hopelessness caused by the actions of their loved ones.  Often they take on the responsibility/blame for the wreckage that surrounds those who are acting out! 

The family and loved ones of the pornography user must constantly remember the three Cs of addiction: 

I didn't cause it.

I can't cure it.

I can't control it.

Again, the truth is that all the trauma and drama that is felt by loved ones is the full responsibility of the one who is acting out with pornography.

If you are looking for help, tools, and understanding, I will be joining Kristen Jenson (founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org), Joe Madison (director of Love People Not Pixels), and Jody Van Drimmelen (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) and many others at the LoneSTAR Coalition Against Pornography 2019 Conference.

Please join us October 19, 2019, 9 am - 2 pm at the Collin Community College, Spring Creek Campus, in Plano, TX.

Who is this conference for?

  • Parents preparing children to safely turn away from pornography when they see it 

  • Family members committed to supporting each other as they face the challenges of today’s media

  • Fighters determined to find recovery for themselves and their loved ones 

  • Families using technology to restrict the reach of harmful content 

  • Grandparents teaching positive values to keep their families safe and happy


  • Community leaders making decisions that create respectful, family-friendly communities 

  • Church leaders inspiring people to rise above their challenges 

  • Educators ensuring safe schools and teaching smart internet use 

  • Health professionals helping people heal from the damaging impact of pornography 

  • Law enforcement connecting the dots between pornography and crime in our communities


  • Teens standing for freedom from distorted and damaging sexualized media 

  • Young adults taking charge of the influence of media on their relationships and their life 

  • Friends helping friends live happier lives free from pornography 

  • Citizens raising awareness of the public health crisis of pornography in our society and leading community actions that make a difference

Dr. David W. Patterson is a mentor, speaker, & author. His book, “Live One Life: A Guide to Recovery from Trauma, Drama, and Other Addictive Behaviors” ranked #1 in addiction recovery on Amazon. President Patterson serves as 1st Counselor in the Dallas Texas Stake of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and is on the faculty of Grace International Seminary.

4 Ways to Build Your Child’s Resilience Against Pornography


By Kristen A. Jenson, MA

Pornography is a BIG problem because kids are accessing it, imitating it and producing it. In fact, they’re even hiring porn!

Why do kids “hire” porn? In other words, what is it about pornography that makes it so popular with children? What job (or jobs) is pornography doing for kids? 

I wanted to find the answer to this question so I could help parents and teachers better prepare kids to reject the toxic sexual media that has become so easily accessible. To this end I hired an expert and did my own research. We completed in-depth interviews with 10 individuals (8 males, 2 females) who identified themselves as struggling with a pornography addiction, either currently or in the past. 

Our results proved that parents need a more comprehensive approach to raising resilient children in the digital age. One talk won’t cut it. 

Think about it. Most tables have four legs; most houses have at least four walls. Why? To provide stability. Kids need a stable foundation as well, especially when you think about the digital dangers they’re up against. 

That’s why I created The 4 Pillars of Prevention™ strategy. The good news is that there’s more a parent can do to shore up their child’s resilience to pornography. And it starts with understanding the 4 Pillars:

  1. Sexual Integrity: Some kids “hire” pornography to help them learn about sex when parents wait too long or never explain what sex is.

  2. Emotional Resilience: Some kids begin looking at pornography out of curiosity, but continue using it to distract themselves from negative emotions. This is a pathway to addiction that can be avoided with emotional management skills and tools. 

  3. Screen Accountability: All kids need to understand how to use technology in safe, healthy ways. 

  4. Brain Safety: All kids need to know what pornography is, why it’s harmful and how to keep their brains safe by rejecting it with a plan. 

Finally, prevention science teaches us the importance of building a foundation of love and using 4 simple parenting practices to help kids grow up addiction-free. 

I look forward to presenting a comprehensive 4 Pillars of Prevention™ approach for parents at the 2019 Lonestar Coalition Against Pornography’s upcoming conference. Parents will leave encouraged, empowered and equipped with a plan to put the protective 4 Pillars into practice in their own families! 

Don’t miss this opportunity to learn how you can strengthen your child against the toxic effects of pornography. When parents face this challenge head-on with courage, their children don’t have to face it alone, in secret! 

Register here for the conference on October 19, 2019 at the Collin College Conference Center in Plano. 

Kristen A. Jenson, MA is the founder of Protect Young Minds™ and best-selling author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds. She serves on the Prevention Task Force of the National Coalition on Sexual Exploitation.

San Antonio, Texas

My father had pornography in our home, labeled as a regular movie and we kids accidentally saw it. Times have changed so much now because pornography is so much more easily accessible and highly graphic and sexual images are so common in television shows, commercials, musical content is misogynistic and disrespectful.

San Antonio, Texas

I was a child who was hit by both a new drug and new technology; internet pornography. Over the course of 12 years, my childhood turned from innocent to a desperate brokenness that caused harm to me, my family, and my community. Please take from my experience that internet pornography targets children and families to create a sexually broken society.